A radical post-post thought to today’s earlier post (Cheney, ….).
Is it at all possible that the cultural determination, sometimes perhaps even fierce determination, to “be positive” reveals underlying “fear of failure”?
For one thing, the powerful emergence, and wide acceptance of “positive thinking” did in fact rise to popularity as “the antidote of choice to feelings of defeat”.
In other words “personal failure” as a looming possible outcome, whether by career, or financially, or state of physical wellness and capacity, or by amount of “fun and enjoyment” found (or missed due to ‘negativity’) has become something to “watch out for”. To be “on guard against”.
Is it at all fair to suggest there lurks a “fear” component underlying “a discipline of positive thinking”?
Hard to actually experience ‘fear, in physiological, psychological, or emotional terms when one is “experiencing life positively”. That much we have learned.
So, when we are in the presence of someone who is discouraged, we urge a shift to positive thinking. There is good reason for this!
But WHAT IF “social political analysis” and resultant “negativity” (which I do not experience as ‘negative’) is a component that leads to positive outcome?
WHAT IF ‘rational analysis’ of that which ‘disables’ an individual, that which leads to hris discouragement, includes necessity to make a statement that could be interpreted as ‘negative’?
For example, a child cries in frustration because hre cannot accomplish a task just beyond hris capacity and understanding. We can rightly ‘analyze’ the situation. We might be able to demonstrate a ‘how to’ technique. We have no ‘guilt’ at ‘judging’ the child’s “issues” with a frustrating task.
We even celebrate success with the child when the task is ‘conquered’.
WHAT IF the whole of humanity cannot find its way to consistent care for one another, for all life, for earth, and so we continue creating unhappiness among ourselves. WHAT IF the ‘remedy’ cannot be perceived without analysis, analysis that includes noticing ‘errant’ ways in our approach. Analysis that helps uncover our “inadequate technique”. Analysis that would, if known and appreciated, allow us to “hit the mark”.
For me, such analysis is entirely positive in its thinking. I even sometimes experience urge to “cheer on”, to offer loud, celebratory encouragement!
We do a disheartened child small favor when we say: “You can do it” and walk off without offering results of our analysis on what prevents the child’s success.
Similarly, (everything is a model for everything else), it is my experience that we do ourselves as collected humanity no special favor when we say: “You can do it” and walk away without presenting results of a critical analysis of what prevents us.
I much prefer “WE can do it, and here are some understandings, strategies, and techniques we might want to change or embrace… and some of these understandings, proposed strategies and techniques come from use of disciplined cognitive investigation – aka the ‘soft science’ version of ‘scientific analysis**’: hypothesis, research without manipulation to wished for outcome, conclusion, implication for application, etc.”
(**While ‘rationally’ recognizing subjectivity, mindfully monitoring for it, etc.)
(This post = my afterthought to post below).
And My Best! –MaggieAnn